African women are like “glorified slaves” in their marriages, President of the Funke Felix-Adejumo Foundation has said.
Mrs Felix-Adejumo, whose foundation, according to her website, “is dedicated to making worldwide impact with a special call to restoring dignity to womanhood and equipping women from all over the world”, told her audience in one of her teachings that in a typical African village, women are treated like chattel.
She said while marriage is “a necessary evil” and “a mere social contract to be run and guided by traditions and superstitious beliefs” to some people, others see it as an “organised forum for child-bearing and child-rearing”.
In Africa, Mrs Felix-Adejumo observed, marriage “is like a formalised slave trade: the woman is like a glorified slave – you can kick her out and get another one at will and you are free to marry as many as possible”.
In the Western world, she said “it is like a business: for better for stay, for worse, for leave”.
Elaborating on how women are badly treated in marriages in Africa, the author of over 50 books, illustrated that in a “core African village, a man with many wives goes to the farm with his wives, they labour almost equally, some of them are even pregnant or whatever and when they are returning, the man carries only one useless cutlass while his wives carry loads and they are sweating and the man is using the useless cutlass to drive away imaginary flies and greeting people that do not require his greetings”.
And when they get home, she continued: “The man sits before a transistor radio with a keg of palm wine while the woman is busy in the kitchen. That’s marriage in the African setting”.
She, however, said: “It’s the dawn of a new day”, adding that: “Marriage is neither Western nor African, marriage is biblical, the family is the gift of God to humanity. …Marriage is sweet depending on the cutlery you use to eat it.”
Source: classfmonline.com
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i think you are talking of the olding days african marriage not today, Now african men treat their women better than even those in the western world. lets show some gratitude to the men in africa ye women of Africa, my wife isnt treated like that and i didn't witness my dad also in your description. so which african men are you referring to, the Gold Coast time? It's probably an old ananse story.
But madam, if you believe marriage is biblical, and that it should be FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE why are you advocating the Western type which according to you says FOR BETTER FOR STAY, FOR WORSE FOR LEAVE? All you forget is here is Africa, with almost different cultural values viz-a-viz that of the Western you're so fond of. Nobody is saying Africa wives should be treated as slaves, but don't deliberately close your eyes to the fact PEOPLE IN ROME ADHERE TO NORMS IN ROME. "Western People" will always be "Western People" and if you think this you advocacy is going to yield any fruits, then you really have a job on your hands.
Well narrated but incomplete. You should have accounted for what also happens each night and who does most job during that time off the day servicing each and everyone inturn. As someone once put it, we know that in football, the part of the stadium which enjoys the game most, is the pitch where it is played. Is it not slavery as well, to be expending one's energy servicing all round on a daily basis? Particularly so, when they all have a habit of asking for more, yet puts up a front as if they don't like it. I am just asking.