A man may be able to put across a great image, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to �get the girl.�
Here are some ways to know if you�ve struck gold:
1) A real man values more than just your looks.
Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn�t matter how creative he can be, if a guy�s sole focus is on how you look, or �talking dirty,� see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.
2) A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.
A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.
3) A real man will have more interests than just you.
I don�t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life � but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it�s another red flag � relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.
4) A real man will give you answers.
No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.
5) A real man is direct.
In addition to the last point � there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you� but with kindness.
6) A real man will trust you.
As long as you haven�t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you�re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you�ve built.
7) A real man is cool, calm, and collected.
It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you�re at the bar together, or if she�s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in a while.
Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you�re still going home with him at the end of the night.
8) A real man will show you respect.
Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you�re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. Be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.
9) A real man will put effort into your relationship.
Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward.
10) A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.
A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.
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