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A friend (reluctantly) walked out of a 2 year relationship due to �bad timing�. After a year of dating, she moved in with the guy. When the issue of �when are we getting married� cropped up, the illegal husband (oh yeah, he�s an illegal husband) said the time is not right for him even though she is the sort of woman he would like to marry. So, if I am to believe his excuse, it was a matter of getting the right person at the wrong time! Relationships are no doubt beautiful and enjoyable, but when it gets to the complex discussion of taking it to the altar � it suddenly becomes a mystery and a puzzle. In a hasty conclusion, I would have said Mr Man is/was trying to run or is actually out already (oh yes, you can be with someone who has long left the relationship � except they are there only in flesh). But If I should put my �over-thinking� and �over-analysing� cap on, situations like these do happen; you find the right person you would love to spend your time with but either they came at the wrong time (where you�re not ready for any serious commitment due to certain factors and they are) or you find them when you�ve pledged allegiance to someone who doesn�t come anywhere close to what you seek in a partner but somehow �stuck� yourself there. When relationships break down, it is because one person wanted something different. Sometimes (most of the time) you cannot hold it against them. As I told my friend, either she waits for his time or starts all over again � you cannot force something to work or force someone to do something against their wish. They may do it to please or appease you, but few months down the line; you�re on your own! To some, the �wrong timing� maybe due to finances, emotionally unavailable, not ready mentally, the need to �make it� as well as schooling. To others, the time is/may be right but the person is �wrong�. One thing is for sure; you can never make the �wrong� person right � they have to be right, not you making them right (as to change them) but you can make a time right especially if you�re emotionally ready and prepared to take every day as it comes. I�ve seen guys who had come out of relationships and within a year or less, had walked down the aisle and are still living happily because according to them, when you meet someone and there�s something different about them, you know you have a future with the person and it doesn�t take forever to know. Sometimes, there are some people we let go and we never meet that type again (ever) � he/she may be the sort of person we tick as �right� or �good� in our books, their character, charisma et al. When we take the �he/she didn�t come at the right time� route and let them go � we miss a lifetime opportunity. Some can argue that one should try to hold on to the right person even if the time is not right and make the time right � but the question is what if you want to make the time right and you�re not financially, emotionally and mentally prepared or you�re with someone and �hoping� to let that relationship die and come grab the right one (ha-ha) � do you let go or do you make the time right?